If she did, she would change some of the things I write, because she thinks I am “being too cool” while talking about the stuff I don’t like to do for our upcoming nuptials.
So, in honor of Heather, I’ll write about all the things I have done to help with the wedding.
**Mastered the guest list.
**Helped choose tuxedo style and colors.
**Gave input on the “Save the Date” postcard and invitations. (Also, scored a Groupon to help save some money on the invitations. Yeah!)
**Went to two department stores and helped choose things for the registry.
**Organized the rehearsal dinner.
**Said “Yes, that’s a good idea, babe” numerous times. Said “Umm, no thanks, babe” several times. Said “No way, that costs way too much!” at least once.
**Updated our wedding website.
**Smiled during the engagement shoot. (That wasn’t hard.)
**Even sat at the computer while she looked at shoes for her bridesmaids. That was a labor of love, because I have no idea what she wanted! And, honestly, I don’t think she did, either.
An aside: That’s the biggest difference between men and women who shop. Guys go to the store or an online retailer with something in mind. Girls go shopping simply to look and see if there is something they want.
A quick story: I was at a meeting the other night, and during a slow stretch, I looked over at the women on my right. She was reading a clothing advertisement. Then I looked to the woman on my left. She was looking at shoes on her laptop. Me, I was thinking about dinner.
So far, planning this event has been good. We’re learning about each other. That being said, I’ll be glad when it’s over, so we can get on with the rest of our lives.
Editor Peter Burke is getting married in May. Until then, he is writing about planning the big day from a guy's perspective. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.